Love this!! I always wanted to be buried at my family cemetery. It's the most idyllic, peaceful place in the world. Grew up spending lots of quality time out there (doubles as an off the grid family picnic/lake day rendezvous point) My grandma, uncles and grandfather were buried there...until recently. Families get weird sometimes in grief. Everyone was exumed and reburied in a horrible cemetery by the highway after a property inheritance dispute. Strangest decision ever, but what are you gonna do? Like I said...people get weird when it comes to grief and money.
Second...I want to spend eternity in the good place of course. Wherever that is. Since I have no idyllic, lakeside resting place awaiting me, I think I'll stick around for awhile first. I want to check in on (haunt?) everyone I knew, even acquaintances, and see what they're up to. I want to know everyone's secrets. It sounds like fun. Is everyone nosy? Or do most go straight to the light? Feels like a wasted opportunity. Eternity is long enough to spare a little spying on your loved ones.
Bows and arrows, fire, the sun setting - brilliant!
Failing that - cremation, don't care what I wear as I won't be viewed, cardboard casket, ashes scattered at sea from our boat at my favourite very isolated beach.
Private funeral, immediate family only, no wake or memorial of any sort.
I was a funeral director's grandaughter. I watched all sorts - big with wailing families and friends, huge expense, and small and intimate with peace and calm. No prizes for guessing what I erred toward.
I really approve of the light way you tackled Death - it's a great attitude and removes the mystery and fear. Well done!
I loved reading this and hearing the story again (Julie told it to me awhile ago and I knew it would be perfect for Aging Gratefully). I loved your funny snippets and how you took a painful subject, one that a person really doesn't want to think about, and made it a natural part of aging. Hubby and I still need to get to the cemetery to check out availability before July 1st when the prices go up. Thanks sis!
Turn me to ash and toss me out from a Folgers can, a la The Big Lewbowski (though, I think my friends would check wind direction first). Great post, CK. xo
ok interesting synchronicity (story of ALL our lives?) just went to dermatoligist to have thism yearly quick cut of a bump above eye from where i fell off a roof few years ago, not the worst of the damage as i woke up in mid air enroute PCB with chopper blades whirring overhead, another story...and right before in waiting room ran into a unique white bearded local who i had always admired for among other things sawing up lumber from local wood using an old vw motor (he is very clever and imaginative if somehwhat esoteric) and he has a nature preserve with a cool bamboo forest his grand father maybe started after WW2 but also as part of his various inventions has the capability (and state license apparently) of freezing your body while he prepares simple plot to bury you in at VERY LOW COST and marked by a modest stone and he is required by state to have a map....so theres an idea if anyone wants to be be interred no nonsense in North Florida and i will not go into the shockingly funny and above board banter with (ugh) married and 40 and id guessed 29 nurse practitioner id never seen prior and in p resenceof 2 assistants had the boldness to reaffirm what i had iin other words confirmed in her : "charismatic and sexy"
id be happy to be buried now after that but its only noon so.....i'll take door #3
Apr 26, 2023·edited Apr 26, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel
Death- right up my alley! John Denver had something to say about burial plots, especially Forest Lawn; y'all love it, I promise: https://youtu.be/5S8Q2M4CBVU
The idea of being buried never appealed to me- probably starting from the first time I saw "Poltergeist". Not about the ghosts, but the flood in the backyard and what it did to the Indians buried there. My wife does not want a fixed location where all the children will feel OBLIGATED to travel to to visit, as she has had to do with her mother's plot. I thought that was very conscientious of her. My parents were the first of our family's generation to be cremated, so that's the way I'll go. I'm kinda obsessed with this topic- in a fearful way- so it took a lot to even comment. I haven't truly decided what to believe in. I am a Christian, and believe in all that entails there, but I'm adapting a few books from those who have far more "supernatural" experiences, much of which involves an Afterlife that is "not" as the Church teaches, but more like the movie "Contact" (energy never dying; coming back in another form, etc. ). Having witnessed the dying process with many people in my life- and in many cases, the last face they saw before dying (as if dying wasn't enough), I'm still on the fence about what comes next- but I guarantee we'll all find out. That thought ALONE is unbelievable; every person who ever lived, or will live, will die. I can't get my head around that.
Our family is lucky, we live in rural NH. We've already arranged with the town to set up a family plot on my in-laws's farm. It's a beautiful place in the corner of a pasture, overlooking the woods.... and it will be free! Now my hubby is trying to get it all set up so it's perfect, (so maybe not so free 😂). I'm leaning towards a green burial (also legal up here). Other family members are leaning towards cremation, a couple others want caskets - I'm hoping I'll get to feed a nice old oak tree someday. Plus, since it's ours, there's no question that our fur babies will be welcome, too.
Love this!! I always wanted to be buried at my family cemetery. It's the most idyllic, peaceful place in the world. Grew up spending lots of quality time out there (doubles as an off the grid family picnic/lake day rendezvous point) My grandma, uncles and grandfather were buried there...until recently. Families get weird sometimes in grief. Everyone was exumed and reburied in a horrible cemetery by the highway after a property inheritance dispute. Strangest decision ever, but what are you gonna do? Like I said...people get weird when it comes to grief and money.
Second...I want to spend eternity in the good place of course. Wherever that is. Since I have no idyllic, lakeside resting place awaiting me, I think I'll stick around for awhile first. I want to check in on (haunt?) everyone I knew, even acquaintances, and see what they're up to. I want to know everyone's secrets. It sounds like fun. Is everyone nosy? Or do most go straight to the light? Feels like a wasted opportunity. Eternity is long enough to spare a little spying on your loved ones.
The thing on IG that has been sold out for months!
Me: burned to a crisp.
PJs obviously, good for day and night...and resting.
Funny!
Burned. My preference would be a viking funeral as per Rocket Gibraltar (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0096003/)
Bows and arrows, fire, the sun setting - brilliant!
Failing that - cremation, don't care what I wear as I won't be viewed, cardboard casket, ashes scattered at sea from our boat at my favourite very isolated beach.
Private funeral, immediate family only, no wake or memorial of any sort.
I was a funeral director's grandaughter. I watched all sorts - big with wailing families and friends, huge expense, and small and intimate with peace and calm. No prizes for guessing what I erred toward.
I really approve of the light way you tackled Death - it's a great attitude and removes the mystery and fear. Well done!
I loved reading this and hearing the story again (Julie told it to me awhile ago and I knew it would be perfect for Aging Gratefully). I loved your funny snippets and how you took a painful subject, one that a person really doesn't want to think about, and made it a natural part of aging. Hubby and I still need to get to the cemetery to check out availability before July 1st when the prices go up. Thanks sis!
shit ive had myriad smaller mishaps since
no worrys thanks
Turn me to ash and toss me out from a Folgers can, a la The Big Lewbowski (though, I think my friends would check wind direction first). Great post, CK. xo
not the ER
as for door #3
i wont bore you or your audience....maybe if you were a therapist tho....
ok interesting synchronicity (story of ALL our lives?) just went to dermatoligist to have thism yearly quick cut of a bump above eye from where i fell off a roof few years ago, not the worst of the damage as i woke up in mid air enroute PCB with chopper blades whirring overhead, another story...and right before in waiting room ran into a unique white bearded local who i had always admired for among other things sawing up lumber from local wood using an old vw motor (he is very clever and imaginative if somehwhat esoteric) and he has a nature preserve with a cool bamboo forest his grand father maybe started after WW2 but also as part of his various inventions has the capability (and state license apparently) of freezing your body while he prepares simple plot to bury you in at VERY LOW COST and marked by a modest stone and he is required by state to have a map....so theres an idea if anyone wants to be be interred no nonsense in North Florida and i will not go into the shockingly funny and above board banter with (ugh) married and 40 and id guessed 29 nurse practitioner id never seen prior and in p resenceof 2 assistants had the boldness to reaffirm what i had iin other words confirmed in her : "charismatic and sexy"
id be happy to be buried now after that but its only noon so.....i'll take door #3
Death- right up my alley! John Denver had something to say about burial plots, especially Forest Lawn; y'all love it, I promise: https://youtu.be/5S8Q2M4CBVU
The idea of being buried never appealed to me- probably starting from the first time I saw "Poltergeist". Not about the ghosts, but the flood in the backyard and what it did to the Indians buried there. My wife does not want a fixed location where all the children will feel OBLIGATED to travel to to visit, as she has had to do with her mother's plot. I thought that was very conscientious of her. My parents were the first of our family's generation to be cremated, so that's the way I'll go. I'm kinda obsessed with this topic- in a fearful way- so it took a lot to even comment. I haven't truly decided what to believe in. I am a Christian, and believe in all that entails there, but I'm adapting a few books from those who have far more "supernatural" experiences, much of which involves an Afterlife that is "not" as the Church teaches, but more like the movie "Contact" (energy never dying; coming back in another form, etc. ). Having witnessed the dying process with many people in my life- and in many cases, the last face they saw before dying (as if dying wasn't enough), I'm still on the fence about what comes next- but I guarantee we'll all find out. That thought ALONE is unbelievable; every person who ever lived, or will live, will die. I can't get my head around that.
Our family is lucky, we live in rural NH. We've already arranged with the town to set up a family plot on my in-laws's farm. It's a beautiful place in the corner of a pasture, overlooking the woods.... and it will be free! Now my hubby is trying to get it all set up so it's perfect, (so maybe not so free 😂). I'm leaning towards a green burial (also legal up here). Other family members are leaning towards cremation, a couple others want caskets - I'm hoping I'll get to feed a nice old oak tree someday. Plus, since it's ours, there's no question that our fur babies will be welcome, too.
Paradise Alley! An app for the cemetery!
Not that often one has the opportunity to laugh uproariously aloud to start their day.
Day made☑️
Brilliant interview, we need more of those.
A great read, full of laughs. My in-laws recently took on the task of choosing their plots. Lucky them-- it was a two-for-one sale that month.
Thank you for sharing this.....my morning laugh! 😂