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Yehudis Milchtein's avatar

So sweet. Thank you for sharing this spot of joy.

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thank you for reading and commenting. 🙏🏻

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Ororo Munroe's avatar

When I was reading this, I was a little tense because I was expecting the other shoe to drop. Like, ok, something REALLY bad happened at school. Needless to say, I felt relieved for your kids. Because kids can be SO evil sometimes. Experienced the N-word for the first time in 6th grade (6th grade!), and, like you, I wondered where he learned it from. At that age, it has to be the parents, right? The kid's name was Damon (so close to Demon) and he was a bit of an asshole bully. I'm hoping he tried using that word again when he got older in an environment he shouldn't have and either got fired or got his ass kicked. #karma

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Sorry you heard that word at all but especially at a young age. Damon the demon. We all have one or four.

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Ororo Munroe's avatar

Indeed!

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Stephanie Losi's avatar

Hugs to you, my friend. Today and every day.

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thank you. 🥰

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Melanie Newfield's avatar

Sending hugs.

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C.A. Green's avatar

Beautifully written. The way your kids took to it so innocently makes a huge impact. But this is something I would not really want to keep going on. Hug a Jew turns into Smother a Jew turns into make a Jew wear a yellow star. Do we have hug a Muslim day? Or any other hug-a-anybody day? Sounds creepy. Plus I’m shomer negiah (I don’t touch the opposite gender except family) this would be so awkward.

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

So true. Worked well for middle schoolers. Thx for reading and commenting. 🙏

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Rebecca Holden's avatar

I've learned so much from this beautifully-written exploration of a complicated subject. A wonderful post - thank you. ♥️

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thank you. ☺️

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Caz Hart's avatar

Only the mother can be known with certainty, notwithstanding modern surrogacy. I would have thought that's the reason. Nothing to do with feminism or who raises the children. (Is their something wrong with equality of rights and dignity for women? 🤔 Because that's feminism.)

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

I was very young when this notion came up. Gosh I hope you didn’t interpret my piece as saying that I don’t believe in the equality of rights and dignity of women. 😞

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Caz Hart's avatar

Ah, youth!

The matriarchal lineage was set in place so long ago (I don't know the Jewish history,), nothing feminist going on back then.

I'd always thought it was insightful, even scientific, in an era when the science wasn't known. True lineage could only be via the mother. I always thought that was quite a radical and correct decision if they wanted to ensure that the bloodline was truly Jewish.

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Donna McArthur's avatar

This is a beautiful story that, as a mother, is also unnerving.

I have sat here writing line after line and deleting them because I simply don't know what to say. I feel like I just stuck my head above the sand and the world up here is carrying on in some bizarre manner that is based on a set of rules I don't understand. The guidelines that I know are based on hugs and mutual respect regardless of all the things. Sending you and your family and friends so much love and a million hugs. xox

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thank you. 🙏

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Kim Van Bruggen's avatar

What a beautiful story and so innocent looking back on it with today's eyes. It scares me to think what 'huge a jew day' could mean with everyone seemingly going to crazy town at the moment. I agree with one of the writers below that October 7th should be a special hug a jew day, reach out to your jewish friends day (if you are too far away for a hug) and a day to honour all the innocence lost on that day. Sending you a big hug from afar. xo

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Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

Seconding this. Beautiful story - xo🙏

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thank you.😊

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thank you. I feel your hug. 🙏

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Mark Dolan's avatar

A very nice story and timely Carissa. A fair amount to unpack. My FAVORITE part of the story is the natural anxiety and uncertainty of you as a parent about what this is about. Meanwhile children are pure and have the gift of that freshness. Your kids just had a blast. The children themselves were not hung up on "the mother decides the religion" -- everyone gets a hug -- this is an example of why the young present the best hope for the future.

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thx Mark. Many parents need to take the time to learn from their kids. 🙏

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Mark Dolan's avatar

100% AGREE!!!!! I have a draft post about the differences between genetics and epigenetics. There is a fair amount of data that points to creatures (like us) who spend a lot of time with kids in the brood tend to dampen genetic improvement. Humans have kids in their stead for nearly 1/4 of their lives. Unless we start letting go early we can dampen the innovation. Humans, elephants and whales bear a heavy influence on their offspring both good and bad.

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Interesting. Makes sense.

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Sue Ferrera's avatar

Sending you virtual hugs!! Xoxo💕

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thank you. 🙏

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ClownWorld Shakespeare's avatar

I'm not really big on hugs, more of a handshaker. But we can all use a good hug sometimes...

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Thank you. 🙏

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ClownWorld Shakespeare's avatar

I'm not really big on hugs, more of a handshaker. But we can all use a good hug sometimes...

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Sandra Ann Miller's avatar

When I asked why the Rosenbloom children went to Catholic mass and not temple, my mother explained that it was the woman who determined the religion. I asked why. She said, "Because we can be sure who the mother is." I was in fourth grade. Sending loads of hugs, Carissa. xo

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

That’s sad and hilarious rolled into a 1950s mentality. I feel like I know your mom even more. You need a memoir, sis. Thx. 🙏

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C.L. Steiner's avatar

That was put to me as Talmudic wisdom: “Everyone knows who the mother is, but only God really knows who the father is.”

I thought that was a rather cynical rabbi. Still, he had a point.

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Patricia Cusack's avatar

Please accept a virtual hug from me in these trying times.

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Thank you. 🙏

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Terry Freedman's avatar

and from me

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

🙏🙏 much appreciation.

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Phyllis Channing's avatar

Every year on October 7 we should have the holiday called hug a Jew. Great story filled with innocence and truth. Hugs to all Jews

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Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Perfect. That’s should he the date. 🙏❤️

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