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Jun 2, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

" So it's the laughter we will remember, whenever we remember, the way we were..." Barbara Streisand got it right. Fortunately I do tend to remember the good times.

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Babs knew. Good memories are key. Thx for reading and commenting.

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Jun 2, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

I live in the past, going as far as keeping my High School yearbook by my side at the computer. College is what I remember mostly, surprisingly enough considering I drank my way through much of it. I've been fortunate to reconnect with several people from childhood, HS, college and my law enforcement years. My absolute favorite thing is talking about the "stories" from the past. The problem is, of course, that at our age, we don't really remember much, and the few stories that we DO remember, we ALL remember. We also forget that we told and re-told these same stories to one another with each discussion. It truly IS an vicious cycle. Songs bring back certain times and certain people; Phil Collins "In The Air Tonight"- the first CD I ever owned, and the first song I ever heard on a CD player; "Those Were The Days" (ironically titled, considering this discussion) by Mary Hopkins was played over and over again by my friend's mother as we sat in her living room playing; "This Magic Moment" by Jay Black I recorded on my red Take and Tape cassette recorder. It was memorable because I dropped my trumpet mouthpiece on a glass desktop at a perfect break in the song. I've decided that life's memories are a lot like the way they describe police work- "Ninety-nine percent boredom, and one percent sheer terror". I remember some very good things, fun things, funny instances, and deep discussions. I also remember the really bad events- we all do. What I don't remember are the in-between times; we just don't have enough brain cells to remember every instant of our past. I don't remember a single conversation of any significant length with my father. He was a great Dad, but he wasn't "that" Dad. I don't remember much with my mother, until she was dying. It seems the memories died with her, as well. Don't get me wrong- I had an idyllic childhood. Just nothing stands out. My big concern now is trying to BE memorable and DO memorable things with my granddaughters, 4 and 2, and so far, I haven't been able to. I REALLY don't want to die without being remembered by someone. What's the point of living if we can't be remembered?

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I’m sure you’ve left a beautiful impression on your daughters and your scrumptious granddaughters will have great memories of you. When were you a cop?

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Jun 2, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

Geno- It's never to late to be remembered. Maybe your kids can remember how a great grandparent you were. My grandfather taught his 4 grandkids how to read before kindergarten and gave us a choice of a red green or yellow sour-balls when we were done with our assignment! That's quite a legacy and a way we remember him. My grandkids will probably remember that I only taught them how to make s'mores.! Good luck.

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Great stories.

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Jun 2, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

Both of my grandfathers died before I was able to HAVE memories, but I've created stories in my head based on what I was told by my parents. One of my grandfathers was a doctor (GP) and they were both heavyset (as I am). They died within a year of each other, I think, and created this story growing up that I told all of my friends. My one grandfather had a heart attack (he did), and my family called my OTHER grandfather- the doctor- over to the house, he began doing mouth-to-mouth and HE had a heart attack, and died on the other's chest. Makes for a pretty good story- but it's not true. I don't even know for sure if the two men met again after my parent's wedding! Anyway, they're too young for memories still, but between videos and endless pictures, they probably will create their OWN recollections if I should die tomorrow. They'll know I was a writer, a bad photographer, loved birds and my dog "Seaver" (they call Bubba)...and that I wore a cape, could fly and I took down bad guys. I'll make sure they know THAT much.

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Your granddaughters are scrumptious. They will know you for a long time to come. 🙏 Thx for reading and commenting.

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Jun 1, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

So well written and thoughtful. I don't have many good memories from my childhood but I do remember playing travel agency -"The white zone is for immediate loading and unloading only. NO PARKING!" And I also remember Gronks and cougars. Fun!

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LOL. Good times. Kids being creative—as it should be. Thx for reading! I know you’re kinda busy. 😃

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Jun 1, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

Memory Lane is wonderful. Such a good time growing up in the mid 1900's.

We hope our memories will lay the groundwork for our grandson's own in this tough, unpredictable world. Laughter and love...

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🙏🙏🙏

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Jun 1, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

I love this post, all the different ways we can travel down memory lane!

I find myself dwelling there less and less as each year passes, working hard to stay firmly in the present with my eye on where the ball is going. However, there is just nothing like a gut-splitting, all out laugh fest recalling some of the debacles of my past.

I love the bark eating story and sampling the neighborhood. Pretty sure if you were in my hood you would've been right there with me testing out the 'lick the car bumper in the middle of winter' trick. I can tell you it didn't end as well as the bark eating situation!

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Haha. Lick the car bumper. Thx for reading and nice comment. 😃

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Jun 1, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

Beautifully written teas, that we all can relate to

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Jun 1, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

Typo. Meant to say it was a beautifully written piece.

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Jun 1, 2023·edited Jun 1, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

I try to stay away from memories - basically. They are bitter and bittersweet.

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I hear you. Thx for reading and commenting.

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Parts of Memory Lane in my ZIP code are littered with landmines. Those portions I avoid. But I envision myself like Dorothy Parker in her later years, at a bar, trading old Hollywood stories for cocktails. The NDAs should be worthless by then. xo

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Ouch to landmines. Good to avoid. Did you ever see the movie about Dorothy Parker with Jennifer Jason Leigh? Don't know if it would look dated now, but it was great when it was released.

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I've probably seen it a dozen times (they used to play it all the time on Sundance or IFC, one or the other). Love it. xo

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May 31, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

Now is as good a time as any to share why your Substack is so FUN! You cover so much and always get to the point. The punchlines and things to think about are always worth a revisit. Becoming the keeper of your husband's memories is HILARIOUS. Your reminder of what Classic Rock radio was like "all the hits" was great. Why do we remember the hotels/motels instead of the destination? Memory is not reliable but sometimes it is durable :) The Qs 1. YES 2. 1st Airplane trip 3. Hard to believe it was the same trip!

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Thank you so much. Appreciate the reading, comment and of course the praise. Maybe we'll get to hear about your 1st airplane trip in an essay?

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May 31, 2023Liked by Good Humor by CK Steefel

I think about the past constantly. One of my favorite memories is of playing Forest Ranger with my sister while on backpacking trips, talking to eachother through chunky little pieces of wood (our radios). Thanks for sharing your neighborhood sampling adventure - glad you had fun and didn't eat hemlock bark!

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Good to know about Hemlock. Love the Forest Ranger game. Thx for reading and commenting.

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